MENTAL HEALTH// DEALING WITH BREAK-UPS AND FALLEN FRIENDSHIPS

It's been a month since people have started talking about mental health and depression. Everybody is posting stories saying "reach out if you need to talk" or "just one call away". Are people really concerned about others or just want their profiles to look all fancy? Are they being true to you or just being hypocrites?

You must have heard people telling you "pretend to be okay, that's life". Does life really teach us to pretend? How many times has your friend, who recently went through a break-up, has asked you to spare some time for him/her and exactly how many times have you really helped him/her? How many times have your friends asked you to pass on a message for him/her other friends and how many times did you actually do it? 

You never know if the smile on the other person's face is real or fake!

BREAK-UPS

What issues in a relationship lead to a break-up at first? Depression? Yes. 

A lot of you might not realize but some people feel depressed when in a relationship. For some people, their partner makes them feel low. The relationship becomes toxic to them. They cannot handle the thought of being with their partner after a period of time. Why does this happen? Maybe their partner is too dominating, too possessive, or too controlling. You never know what the other person is going through just by looking at their Instagram feed. If a couple is posting pictures daily and you feel they are your "couple goals", you still don't know what's really happening with them. They might be fighting daily and then after solving those fights, they must be posting those pictures. In short, things are not always what they look like. People might look happy but maybe they're not. 

After a break-up, it is a custom to fight for a few more days and then end it finally. But actually, in a mature relationship, a mature person would end it peacefully. It is not always that you need to fight to end a relationship. No matter how it ends, there are after-effects. Aren't there? 

Still looking at their last seen, and profiles every minute to see if they have posted something related to you. All of this is normal, and yes it takes time. But there are some basic things you need to do after your break-up in order to be at peace and not overthink. 

Keeping your distance is the best possible way. Try not to look at their profiles, and the best thing to do is block them everywhere. It should become like they don't even exist, and never did. If they try to talk to you and call, just remember how toxic it was when you were with them, and don't pick up. Don't go to the places you went with them, or where they roam the most. Do not listen to heartbreaking or romantic songs, that's the worst. It totally reminds you of them. The best thing is to keep yourself busy. Get a new hobby, paint, dance, sing, write, do anything you can but keep yourself engaged somewhere. And it really really works! So try this otherwise things start getting inside your head and it's not good for you and your health.

FALLEN FRIENDSHIPS

Most of the time, you and your friend fight and you know it a small one, so eventually, you'll sort it out. But sometimes, you don't realize when those small-small fights turn into a big one. Usually, there is no specific reason why friends fight. Either it is a misunderstanding, or because of a third person. Mostly, it's the latter. 

First, you should always clear out these kinds of misunderstandings no matter how weird you feel that they'll question you on doubting them and all, but nothing is bigger than those misunderstandings you guys already have. Give yourself some time, lock yourselves in a room, and talk it all out. But in case, you fail to do this and you guys break your friendship, talk to someone about it. There is absolutely no harm and no need to shy about talking to anyone about your problems. Because even small things like these, for some people it might be very huge, they affect your health and put pressure on your mind. Losing a friend might kill you from inside, but in reality, if you think, it's not that hard. It pains for a while but time heals everything, isn't it? The best way is to keep yourself busy. Engaging yourself somewhere keeps you from overthinking and you do not get depressed at any cost. Your mental health won't be affected if you also talk to someone about your problems. Letting things out, sharing your issues with others is also a great way to prevent depression. 

So when someone asks for your help next time, wants to talk to you, don't say no!

You can save a life too.

XOXO,

Sanch.